Reading about the dreadful Southwark Park Nursing Home last week, I felt so sad when some poor resident only had a year old newspaper to read ( apart from the cruelty, violence perpetrated by so called ' nursing staff!) How much are residents allowed to retain for personal use? Did the nursing home allocate his cash? If thats the case where did all the money go from residents personal allowances?
If that had been a boarding kennels the council would have closed it down straight away....
Jan that unfortunatly is only one of many.And guess where the money goes.Deep pockets.There is an action called 38degrees and they are going to Downing Street to protest about the cut backs in the N.H.S.If people only moan but do nothing then nothing will be done and we will be back to the days when our parents had to pay a Dr to come out ,that is why so many people of all ages died,Thankfully we had a great Dr who used to take his fee in veggies .can you imagine that happening now.Next it is the police who will be dwindled down.Then where will we all be .We know we need cutbacks but not all at once the way they are doing it.So many people will lose their homes and it is forecast some will be worse of by as much as £50 per week.The email is [email protected] check it out
Thank you girls, I will check 38 deg. out Margaret....Jackie I am sure that I read somewhere that unannounced visits to nursing/care homes are to be scrapped, if thats the case heaven help our old and vulnerable people. When looking for a nursing home we went to one where you had to make an appointment just for a casual look around and residents were not allowed visitors outside certain hours...another home the 'Kamp Kommandant' marched straight into a residents room without knocking..I remarked on it and was told the lady was 'used' to it.
The good old southwark park nursing home had so many people sitting in their armchairs waiting to die I think, they had crammed so many people in, it reminded me of large furniture warehouses where settees were stuck up on walls, I asked the carers what activities took place to keep people interested in living, did they ever get chance to be taken out etc...the only activity the carer could think of was one lady did painting by numbers! I really makes me sick when the old hoary chestnut is spouted out about pay, it is a depressing thought that low pay deprives people of humanity and compassion.
It is very hard work to keep people clean and fresh , I have cared for my husband, mother, and sister in law 24 hours a day on my own, I changed soiled sheets when a colostomy bag burst in my husbands case,and a wet sheets when my Mother in her confusion pulled off her urostomy bag, so I do know the messy parts of caring!
I just pray the b*****ds who ill treat the vulnerable whether adult or child are repaid in kind a thousand times over when they need help...and sorry rambling again I need a drink!
Jan, do have a look at 38 degrees. No longer in my marching days, I have become an armchair activist and can sign petitions and send letters to my MP and so on from the comfort of my own home.
The most basic parts of caring are those which are not don - I once visited someone (who had had a stroke and had Alzheimer's) in a major teaching hospital. She was lying back in a neatly made bed. The smell was the clue, and on further inspection she had obviously not been washed or changed for some time. She ate the chocolates we brought so hungrily that I suspect she had also been starving. On speaking to the staff, they said that two or three staff were required to change the sheets, and they were short staffed, so finally, the other visitor and I changed the sheets and cleaned her up.
Unfortunately, these situations seem to be found everywhere these days.
My mother is in a care home, and I know they do their best but....even though we are paying an arm and a leg it's really scary a)how smelly it all is and b)how little attention they pay to whether people are really eating their meals. Old people find eating laborious and need help to make sure they eat enough to keep their strength up. Altogether, the lack of respect for people at the end of a long life is heartbreaking. We were helpless, unwashed and incontinent when we came into this world and alas we are thus when we leave. But the charm of a baby isnt matched by a withered oldie. Compassion and patience are given to very few, and careworkers are paid a ridiculously insulting wage. What CAN be done?
Jan I suspect the only answer to avoid cruelty and neglect lies within the family. But we have all been encouraged to have careers, move away from our parents and so on. I do know someone who cared for her mother until she died while holding down a full time job - fortunately she could get away at lunchtime to feed and change her mother, but my friend had a very bad back, was over 60 herself, and that was part of the problem. Her mother was very heavy, and before eventually becoming bedridden she suffered from dementia. She was brought home more than once by the police, as she had taken to wandering the streets in the middle of the night in winter wearing just a nightie.
My own mother died two weeks after having a stroke. She was in a specialised stroke unit, and even there, changing the sheets was a low priority.
This is the trouble. However horrible the place they are in, closure and forced removal always has a bad effect on residents. I used to run a Community Health Council many years ago, and we found that the mortality rate was very heavy in such circumstances.