Michael, there has been a SE1 social last week and it was good fun to meet-- we haven't been secretive about it and I think gay southbank boys shouldn't be either: if we would be, it would legitimize behaviour that we don't want.
Whereas I do not believe in provocative behaviour at all, I seriously believe that 'hiding' has the reverse effect; let them know that we are there.
How many guys went along to the get together? And where did you meet? I would like to attend the next drink up you guys have, to get to know some other guys in my area - it takes ages to make friends in a new area, especially in London!