Desperation time James....cant get in at ALL today. Your point about AOL is interesting, you are not the first to suggest that AOL is awkward,people have often said that only AOL sends their messages back....funny thing is, there never used to be a problem it's only the last weeks.
I'm also having problems trying to get into the main "Private Message" page (not an AOL user) but I have no problems following a direct link to the messages (i.e. clicking the link in the "you have a new private message" email that I get takes me straight to the message).
For two days now I've tried clicking on the "you have new messages" and on the tool bar "private messages" and just get "Website not responding". I wouldnt mind except that whoever has send me PMs thinks I;m rude not replying!